Hey Reader,

“What’s your plan?”

It sounds like a simple enough question.

What are you doing this weekend?​
​When can we catch up?​
​What are your holiday plans?

They’re perfectly reasonable questions. We ask them all the time.

But when your brain is already trying to keep hold of today, being asked to think about tomorrow - or next week, or next month - can sometimes feel like more than it should.

Because answering “When are you free?” may involve much more than checking your calendar.

You might need to remember what’s already happening, think about the things that aren’t on the calendar yet, work out how much time and energy you’ll have, consider other commitments, decide what you actually want to do - and then commit your future self to it.

That’s quite a lot hiding inside one little question.

And there’s another interesting part to this.

You might already be doing a lot of other things.

A birthday. Kids’ sport. A family event. An appointment.

So from the outside, it can look like: You’re obviously able to make plans. Why is this one so hard?

But many of those other things may have arrived with their structure already attached:

Saturday. 2pm. This location.

Compare that with:

“We should catch up. When are you free?”

Now you have to create the structure.

You have to look ahead, find the space, weigh up the options, make the decision and commit.

The two plans may eventually look exactly the same in your calendar, but they didn’t necessarily require the same amount of executive function to get there.

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So if you notice yourself avoiding a message, putting off making plans, or feeling unexpectedly overwhelmed by a perfectly reasonable question, it might be worth getting curious about what’s making it hard.

Is it actually the plan?

Or is it everything you need to work out before you can make the plan?

Sometimes making the question smaller can help.

You don’t necessarily have to work out your entire weekend before you respond. Your next step might simply be:

“I’m not sure yet. Can I come back to you next Friday?”

That’s still an answer.

🌱 Today’s Delta

If making a plan feels harder than it should, pause and notice what you’re actually trying to work out.

You may not need to solve all of it before you respond.

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Small shift Different direction ​That’s the Delta Δ

Ojonoka
​Certified ADHD Life Coach (ACC, ACALC)​
​ADHD Delta® Coaching
​www.adhddeltacoaching.com.au​

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